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4 Life Lessons Learned Living In The Big City

Athletes get traded from professional teams in a blink of an eye, get their playing positions changed, and move to different cities. It sounds like a lot to endure, but the best of the best use these changes to make them bigger, better, faster, stronger.

Change is a fact of life not only for professional athletes, but for you as well. It can come in any moment, day or year, and a sometimes you just want to resist it. Why endure change when your routine is working just fine for you, right? I will tell you why: because at the end of the day, you end up learning valuable lessons about yourself, others, and life in general that allow you to grow as an individual. Moving to a big city is the epitome of change (wouldn’t you agree?).

I moved to Houston, Texas back in 2008, and as I prepare to pack my things and move on to Savannah, GA, I can’t help but reflect on the life lessons I have learned during my time in the 4th largest city in the United States:

1) Don’t Worry So Much About What Others Think

We live in a society where everything anyone says or does can be scrutinized. Several times you have probably had to make important decisions or communicate ideas/suggestions and thought to yourself: “What will other people think?” Maybe it is a simple decision on which outfit you wear to the gym or maybe more strategic such as changing careers. This simple question can cause much unneeded stress and anxiety, and I challenge you to throw that out the window. You are the captain, the take charge, butt kicking person in your life, and you don’t need others to validate your life decisions, because at the end of the day those decisions and actions are ultimately your path to finding happiness & success, not anyone else’s . When a captain on an airplane makes a decision on the flight, does he say to himself, “I wonder what the passengers will think?” No, because he is in control, the expert, and is focused on the task at hand on getting the passengers safely to their destination.

Have control, be the expert of your life, and focus on what YOU think will be the tasks needed to get you to your happy & successful destination.

2) Live Simple

Louis Vuitton, Michael Kors, LuLu Lemon, fancy cars & toys, and million dollar houses: Oh Yes- all of that in more in big city living. It can be hard not to get caught up in the ‘keeping up with the Jones’ era even if you aren’t living in a big city.

What happens is that the luxurious lifestyle you might live, usually can come at a price or sacrifice. Maybe you are working yourself to death to be able to buy designer brand clothes, while other areas and relationships of your life are falling short. Maybe the money that is coming in is being used to dine out every night and go shopping every weekend. In return this causes anxiety and stress about finances and your quality of life is sacrificed. For others maybe this is just a reminder from that life you used to live.

There will probably be a situation or event that may jeopardize the glamorous lifestyle you live, if one already hasn’t…. BUT BREATH. It will be the best thing that ever happens to you, trust me. You might be shocked and have withdrawals in the beginning, but as you settle down and really start BEING IN THE MOMENT you will realize that your material possessions really don’t define you, and you might even start to breath that sigh of relief.

What usually happens is you start to realize that living simple without all the glamorous clutter makes you appreciate the more important things in life: family, friends, relationships, random acts of kindness, your house, pets, etc. You actually become happier because you are investing more time into those things that have a physical and mental return on investment.

3) You Only Need A Few Close Friends To Be Happy

Why do you have friends?
It is a loaded question I know. But I asked myself that 6 years ago and have a different answer than I do now. You might have a million friends to just have fun with, but what happens when adversity strikes or you need advice on a life changing decision? You need people to reach out to and be there for you. And if you have a TON of friends, more than likely only a handful will step up to the challenge of being your rock when you need them to be. So why not invest your time and energy into just those few TRUE friends that are honest, will be there for you no matter what, and TRULY value your friendship?

It’s similar to what I learned working in the corporate world: focus on 20% of your clients to get 80% of your sales, is translated to: focus on strengthening relationships with a handful of friends that will yield the most rewards that come from having true friends.

4) Use Things You Are Scared Of As Motivation

A lot of times we go through life and aren’t satisfied with our circumstances, but because we are such creature of habits, we don’t do anything about it. Could this be you?

It could be related to work, relationships, or even fitness related goals. What you will find is the more you do the stuff you are afraid of, the more and more your intrinsic motivation will build up.


Feeling scared is uncomfortable, but I promise EVERY time you use fear as motivation to take action, it will get a little easier. Instead of shying away from an extremely hard task or decision, you will be HUNGRY for those scared situations where you can rise up and dominate.

Do you have a fitness related goal that is making you so overwhelmed and scared you don’t even know where to begin?!

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  • Clay Jessop September 12, 2014, 12:37 pm

    Great blog, I am so very proud to have such a strong wife who mentally and physically who motivates me to be a better person in all aspects of life. Love you!

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